Welcome to the GRYT Movie Club
The selection of movies will be a variety of genres but the one commonality is they all have GRYT, and so do our discussions! Watch the movie, then join us for the AppChat the second Thursday of the month at 10pm EST! Don’t have time? Haven’t seen this month’s feature? Take part anyway in the chatroom of GRYT’s App! Available for free to download in iOS and the Google Play Store.
Scroll through past movie selections below and read some of the questions we discussed. The conversation is always riveting and deep! Join the next discussion!
• Andy says to Red, “I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying.” How does this resonate with you? How you do you ensure that you get busy living?
• Andy talks about how he holds onto music inside, how they can never take that away from him and it’s how he got through his time in the hole. What keeps you going and helps you through tough times?
• Both Brooks and Red struggled in the halfway house after being released from prison. They felt lost and isolated while they were transitioning. Their friends were back in prison and they were released. How is this similar to you or your loved one’s experience with being sick? What’s worked for you in times of isolation, loneliness, and unsureness?
• Andy’s hobby is rock carving. It ultimately helps him escape because it helps keep him occupied but he also uses the tools to create the tunnel to get out. What hobby or hobbies have helped you while you or a loved one are/were sick?
• Give one example from your own life where hope has fuelled your courage in the face of difficulties.
• Uncle Vernon is in denial with the Hogwarts letters. By covering the mail slot, burning the letters, and leaving the house, he thinks he can avoid Harry getting his letter. What is something a family member or friend has done or said in the face of denial with you or your loved one’s diagnosis
• Ron ends up showing Harry the ropes around the wizarding world. Did you have a Ron? Or have you been a Ron to someone else? What is the best piece of advice or gift you’ve received since you were diagnosed that you like to pass on?
• Harry stays true to his values the entire time he’s at Hogwarts. He’s authentic, relentless, and genuinely cares for the well being of others. What values do you stay true to during this experience? How has it influenced your decision making?
• The Mirror of Erised has an inscription that says “I show not your face but your heart’s desire”. Dumbledore says that the mirror “will give neither knowledge nor truth. Men have wasted away before it, entranced by what they have seen, or been driven mad, not knowing if what it shows is real or even possible. It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” How do you keep from wishing things were different and living life every day? What advice would you give others to help keep them in the present and not get wrapped up in thinking only about what cancer has taken from you?
• Harry, Ron, and Hermione face a number of challenges together, but ultimately the final obstacle Harry must face alone. Ron says, “Harry, it's you who must go on, I know it. Not me, not Hermione, you.” How do you keep your faith and courage through the times you have to walk alone?
• Shannon and Joseph have to do a variety of jobs to survive in Boston, things that they never dreamed they would have to do. How can you relate to this in your journey with cancer?
• Shannon and Joseph hit rock bottom after he loses the big boxing match. They both have to start over in order to get to Oklahoma. What setbacks have you had to overcome and how did you not lose hope?
• "Shannon Christie. You never gave up. You knew what you wanted back in Ireland. And look at you. Here you are. You're a corker, Shannon. What a corker you are." What is an inspirational quote that gets you through a rough day? Or what is something kind that someone has said about you during all of this?
• When Hiro first meets the Nerd lab, he is skeptical and judgmental of them. Later, they end up becoming his “tribe” and help him through his brother’s loss. Who has joined your tribe unexpectedly through this experience?
• The nerd lab goes through incredible lengths to help Hiro on this mission to find out who is controlling the microbots. At one point he is so wrapped up in anger and grief that Hiro tries to get revenge. His friends end up stopping from Hiro from killing Professor Callaghan. They stood their ground in their values and Hiro eventually sees that he was wrong. How have your friends kept you grounded through your journey? What advice do you have for others to going forward to surrounding them with people like that?
• Baymax spends the majority of the movie trying to improve Hiro’s mood and literally tries anything that could help him. His focus is on healing Hiro. Who is an amazing caregiver for you and at what lengths have they gone to help you improve your physical or mental health
• Whenever Hiro is stuck on a problem, he tries to “think of a new angle”. This becomes Hiro’s mantra. What’s a helpful mantra that you have?
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• Drawing is Conor’s outlet and coping mechanism. He uses it to escape and work through his emotions. What are some outlets that work for you?
• In this first story, Conor learns he shouldn’t judge people so quickly. The prince was evil. The witch was innocent. He later learns this lesson with his dad and grandmother. How has cancer taught you this lesson to be true?
• “Belief is the half of all healing. Belief in the cure, belief in the future that awaits.” This is something that is hard to remember. How do you make sure you don’t lose your belief through this?
• Conor is angry about his mom. The monster helps him work through some of these emotions. What are some of your creative ways to work through the anger you might experience?
• “You believe comforting lies while knowing full well the painful truth that make those lies necessary.” Conor knows the truth all along but even the adults in the movie don’t address it with him. Is denial something you and/or your caregivers struggle with? How does that work for you? Good? Bad?
• "Relentless is our goal. Relentless." The beginning of the movie is all about how Chuck is relentless about punctuality, time and performance. It's in his nature. It's also what helps him survive his ordeal. Name a personality trait that has helped you stay relentless through this cancer experience.
• After Chuck's welcome back party, he looks around at the seafood on ice, the lighter on the table, etc. Things he had to fight for when he was on the island. What are some things you used to take for granted that you appreciate more after you or your loved one's diagnosis?
• "I had power over nothing. That's when this feeling came over me like a warm blanket. I knew, somehow, that I had to stay alive. Somehow, I had to keep breathing. Even though there was no reason to hope and all my logic said I would never see this place again. So that's what I did." This was a low point for Chuck when he realized he was so out of control over everything on the island. If he hadn't hit rock bottom, he wouldn't have had the extra rope to get off the island. What are some things that turned out to be positive in the long run from your cancer experience?
• "And I know what I have to do know. Gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide will bring?". What is a message of hope that you could pass on to the next cancer survivor, caregiver, patient that is in your shoes?
• Buddy recites the Code of the Elves: Treat every day like Christmas. The best way to spread Christmas cheer is by singing loud for all to hear. There's room for everyone on the nice list. What are some things you could add to the "Code of the Newly Diagnosed"?
• Buddy is worried after talking to Leon the Snowman about his Dad. Then Santa kindly puts things in perspective. Who has been an unlikely resource and a good soundboard for you? What advice did you get from them that you can pay forward?
• Santa tells Buddy, "Some people just lose sight of what's important in life. That doesn't mean they can't find their way again." How do you remind people in your life about this message?
• Harvey challenges Butch as a leader. Butch stands his ground and beats him but steals an idea from him after the fight. Can you relate to someone close to you not agreeing with your decision making? Were you able to use them as a soundboard for good ideas still or did you have to cut them out of your life?
• Money doesn't last long for Butch. He has a risky lifestyle and lives every day like it's his last. How has cancer influenced your decision making?
• Etta decides to go with Butch and Sundance to Bolivia even though it means leaving her life as a teacher behind. She felt it was a welcomed change compared to the norm. What drastic changes have you made since your diagnosis?
• Despite knowing their fate, Butch and Sundance act completely normal and behave the same towards each other. Is this better or worse than being openly scared in the face of the unknown? What tactics have you used to cope with fear?
• The sisters get their brooms stolen but choose to not give up their quest for Max and the book. They make the best of the situation by being flexible and using whatever they can find. This included a mop, plastic broom, and vacuum cleaner. How has cancer made you adaptable?
• Winifred starts freaking out that things aren't going to work out and Mary suggests they form a calming circle. In moments of anxiety and high stress what tricks and tips work for you to calm down?
• Max is the virgin that lights the black flame candle. It's pretty embarrassing for him but by the end of the movie, even he's making jokes about it. What's something embarrassing you've learned to joke about in regards to what you've had to go through?
• "If you don't pull me out of this swamp of boredom, I'm going to do something drastic." How does this resonate with you and what situation were you in?
• Stella is a great soundboard. Have you had a trusted nurse, caregiver, or medical professional who was that for you?
• Jeff finally realizes at the end of the movie that lots of his neighbors are going through their own trials. Miss Lonely Hearts. Miss Torso. The songwriter. How has this your experience with cancer made you more compassionate? Or did it not and why?
• Acquisition guy (Ted) in the elevator is rude to Walter because he is different and slow to respond. When has chemobrain or other side effects gotten you judged by someone?
• To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life. What does Life Magazine’s motto mean to you?
• What starts as a day where Walter’s job and company have been acquired turns into his greatest adventure. What unexpected outcomes has you or your loved one’s cancer journey given you?
• “Major Tom is about courage and going into the unknown.” Was there a song that helped you get through the trials of cancer?
• When Walter is in the water with the shark, he can’t believe it. (At the time this was scary but realized this had become an item that was “noteworthy or mentionable”!) During your cancer journey did you ever have an out of body experience where you couldn’t believe this was your life that later become a brave, proud moment for you?
• Maui thinks he's done the world a favor by stealing the heart and he's boastful about it. Can you relate to someone in your treatment journey for either yourself or your loved one that has experienced someone in their life like that? That thinks they're super helpful but aren't?
• Moana spent a large amount of time being isolated and alone on her journey. Both in her quest to find Maui but then even after that, which she wasn't anticipating. How can you relate to that?
• Moana decides to dismiss her father's orders and go find the heart anyway. She chose the path right for her even though it wasn't what she was told to do. Did you have a defining moment like that in your journey?
• Moana's dad lives in fear after his best friend died. He didn't want to experience the world the way Moana yearned to. Does anyone have close family or caregivers that act this way after you got sick? That live in fear?
• At the start of the film, Jean Valjean pulls the incredibly heavy flag as his last task before he begins parole. What are some strengths you've gained from your cancer journey, and how have you used them?• When the citizens build up a barricade to start a rebellion, they give everything they have and join together as one to fight. How does this relate to your cancer journey? How have your friends, family, doctors, etc supported you throughout your journey?
• Javert places a medal on Gavroche's shirt when he dies. Describe a time when you displayed pride in your cancer journey.
• Whose journey can you relate to the most?
Who in your life has true grit? (including yourself!!) How have they shown it?
• What does it mean to you to have True Grit?
• Mattie Ross would make an amazing caregiver/advocate for someone with cancer. What attributes do you appreciate in your caregiver?
• Caregivers: what attributes in yourself are you proud of? or wish you could be more often?
• Rooster Cogburn puts a rope around himself before falling asleep to keep away snakes, even though it's too cold for him. What things do you worry about more than you should?
Mattie Ross: That man gave his life for him and he didn't even look back.
Rooster Cogburn: Looking back is a bad habit.
• Have you ever regretted a decision your doctors or you made in your treatment? How did you get past it?
• Mattie and Cogburn have an unlikely friendship. Have any surprising friendships resulted from your cancer journey?
• Which of the Goonies do you relate to most? Mikey, Brand, Chunk, Data, Mouth, Sloth
• The Goonies' families are facing foreclosure on their homes. How has financial stress affected your cancer journey?
• The Goonies are a tight-knit group. How have friendships helped you through the cancer experience?
• The kids decided to embark on finding the treasure when there was nothing left for them to lose. What was that moment for you?
• "Goonies never say die." What's your favorite motivational line?
• What has been your "darkest hour" during your cancer journey?
• Members of Britain's parliament vocally opposed Churchill's view that England should fight Nazi Germany. Have you ever been in disagreement with members of your support system or your medical team regarding your treatment? How was it resolved?
• When 300,000 British troops are stranded at Dunkirk, with the Nazi German forces closing in on them, and all appears lost, Churchill addresses the nation, and lies to the nation about its army's status in order to boost their morale? Is it ever better to not know the real odds, in terms of staying positive, or do you prefer facing reality?
• When the guys fell and the judges wouldn’t let them rerun the trial, it was a huge setback. It wasn’t good enough for them to wait another four years to get into the Olympics. So they found another way. What are some setbacks you’ve had and what ideas did you have to get through it?
• Being different was a negative for the team in the beginning. Sometimes it can be hard to be taken seriously when you look different. Like going rock climbing when you are clearly bald from treatment. What are some instances you’ve had that broke the stereotype of cancer patient?
• The guys were runners. They took what happened and became an Olympic Bobsled team. How has cancer transformed your dreams into something different?
• What do you listen to and how do you prepare for battle like they did (treatment, surgery, etc)?
One of our core words we use is authenticity. “My name is Max. My world is fire and blood.” What is your quote? How do you introduce yourself?
• What was your reaction to Furiosa being bald and missing a limb? How do you proudly wear your (cancer) scars?
• Everyone has had minor setbacks in treatment. For Mark, he blew himself up, and had destroyed his lab. What were your setbacks? How did you show your GRYT and get back up again?
• Going against NASA, Mark threw out the rulebook and dug up the plutonium. It takes GRYT to go against given advice and listen to your gut. What was a moment where you went against medical advice? Was it switching doctors? Or getting a second opinion before deciding on a treatment plan?
• At the end of the movie, when he is back on Earth, he is teaching a class of future astronauts. He says, ""At some point, everything's gonna go south on you and you're going to say, this is it. This is how I end. Now you can either accept that, or you can get to work. That's all it is. You just begin. You do the math. You solve one problem and you solve the next one, and then the next. And If you solve enough problems, you get to come home." This quote embodies GRYT. The GRYT it took him to survive, to get home, to thrive back on Earth after the experience he went though. What would you say to your fellow survivor or caregiver that has recently been diagnosed? What inspirational advice would you give?
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